When two adults have already long together, begin to emerge on the formalization of the relationship, and issues among them, living together as a couple. The world today has changed, and with it also the way of thinking of many people who have a relationship. Until not long ago, there was a tendency to make things “step by step”, i.e. first marriage and cohabitation. Now that trend has changed, and that is not to say that desire to get married there is no, however, many couples prefer to know the maximum first to then conclude safely.

While the parents of these young people who are beginning to make these decisions are not agreed by different customs that have previously marked the social context, those who have the economic possibilities no doubt in do it despite the various controversies. Finally, this decision is of two people, and below are some of the advantages of what it is to live this experience as a couple: are known among Sipuede that two people already take long time, even years together, however, when both coexist You can actually know each other better.

Meet someone means to know what are your daily habits, what you like to do during the day and how to resolve problems that arise. Every time parents say about their children about how much you know about them is because they really know it without a doubt. Probably in the case of a couple who takes a little time getting to know can ensure together that they know everything about the other person, however, really much remains to them know. Once it is already a time of coexistence, they will also learn to identify what are the strengths and weaknesses of fellow, and in this way, learn from each other how to deal with the problems that arise. Get to know each other also is an excellent opportunity to correct different inappropriate habits and to have more control over things. Everything is very different from when I was living with the parents, there was someone who we would wake up in the morning and served us breakfast, now those are activities that must be as a result two people alike.

They learn to manage the gastosUno of the great challenges of living together as a couple is the manage expenses and learn how to save together. Maybe this challenge is given to many people from an early age. Many parents taught their children as children to save with small gratuities that earn them by good activities, however, once confronted with the reality it can cause an unexpected impact. One of the most complicated objectives of any independent person usually, is survive a month with the salary of his employment, which on the one hand also costs to keep it. One of the conditions proposed the couple to live together is currently both maintain employment alike.

Therefore both people undertake to meet the expenses required, as the services of the Department, food, tickets, among others. In general, the weight is less when both people bring to live together. Savings, is also important since you never know when you may need extra money for any emergency situation. It is not bad to give certain luxuries, when not is of so often because the objective is that there is a balance in expenditures and not an imbalance. Divide tareasSi were believed to be the home tasks simple activities, when two people live together will realize alike that they were wrong. For starters, if previously it was not accustomed to perform some type of household activity, maybe live together as a couple is shocking. On the opposite side, if before thinking about living together as a couple you can practice some habits necessary to maintain a home in order then the tasks will be much simpler.

The best part is that no one will have to send to a person, but rather, he or she will pay for itself / a.Dividir the household is the responsibility of two people when they decide to live together. It is important to always keep an organization through a schedule of what should be done every day to avoid improvisations and bad misunderstandings. Some of the most important responsibilities will be the housekeeping, grocery shopping, laundry, or send it to the laundry, among others. With a good organization and responsibilities equal will be to conclude the activities quickly and not leave tasks for last time. Pass good times more juntosY than to know each other better and learn to fend for themselves, when two people live together are ensuring to share wonderful moments together.

By more different than two people living together they will learn to accept differences among themselves and will regard them as unique among them. If prior to live together, the couple has already passed through memorable experiences, what follows will be much more rewarding and full of anecdotal moments that will be forced to share with friends and family. Despite order to keep several hours outside the home for work, when they reunite in the evening always it will be a good time for received and met each other. Weekends will become the favorite of both hobby because they can enjoy time alone and enjoy the hobbies of each. Some of the activities that are made when you live in couple are to see films or series together, prepare a lunch or a delicious dinner, and of course, a big worry-free intimate moment. Many times they will have problems, like all couples, however, this is a great alternative to learn how to deal with them and strengthen the learning between the two.

It can be worrying when you receive a call from school because your child had a problem with one of their classmates or because of an aggressive act even against their teacher. This may be a consequence of mishandling his or her anger, but there is no reason to be alarmed because he can learn to control his anger and avoid more calls for attention.

While it is true that we do not like our children being scolded at school, we must take the situation as part of the experience of parenting. And it is best to help our children understand more about emotions, being mindful of them, and teach them how they can learn to control their reactions if they set their mind to it.

How to react effectively to the behavior of our children?

When a situation such as anger is present in children one tendency is to ignore the situation. We think that it may be a tantrum or bad behavior, and that it will go away, but it is important to notice if our children really know how to control their reactions when the emotion comes, especially if it is an emotion as strong as anger.

Another tendency is to react with frustration or stress. To begin to solve this problem with our children, it must be clear that it is not an act of rebellion or that it is not “on purpose”, but rather it is part of their learning. It must be considered that aggressiveness with aggressiveness cannot be corrected. We should try to react or discipline our children when we are calm.

We should try to use a friendly tone when talking about what happened to our child. 70% of our communication is not verbal. Our gestures, tone of voice, intensity, volume and facial expression communicates more to our child that the content of what we are saying. If our child perceives our frustration or stress they will get defensive or they will shut down.

When our children are stressed or afraid they don’t process information as if they are calm and relaxed. What we intend to communicate won’t be received by our children if we are stressed out or frustrated.  If you as a parent feel stressed out is better to take care of yourself and wait until you feel calm and in control to address the issue with your child.

The first step is to understand that anger is an emotion that both children and adults can experience. It’s normal to feel it. We can teach them to notice it and ride it through, like a wave. It will pass. Children can be taught with patience, tolerance, reflecting and modeling for them. They can understand that their aggressive behavior is not the most appropriate but they can learn other ways. They can learn to wait before they act. They can learn to express their anger in a healthier way. Talk about how they feel and what they need. They can learn to be assertive instead of aggressive and be in control.

Mom: “Oh! you seem to be getting stressed out or even mad. You must have had a tough time at school.” (Reflecting)

Child: It was hard. (child starts to connect the emotion to their sensation)

Mom: “It seems you need your space to calm down. Or do you need a hug I wonder?”

Child: Starts to cry and hugs his mom.

Then when he’s calm you can start to talk about what happened at school feeling safe that his mother will listen and try to understand him. Then both can explore solutions together.

If he wants space, that’s fine, too. It’s important to honor what he needs. He’s learning.

Rage as well as joy, grief, surprise, fear, anger, shame or other emotion can sometimes make us feel uncomfortable.  Our children will feel it, and is part of growing and developing as human being. The important thing is to teach our children how they can handle strong emotions, such as anger.

Anger can manifest itself in aggressive acts. It can be scary for our children to feel intense emotions such as anger. Most of the times they don’t understand what’s happening. They need us to help them understand what’s going on and then regulate their big emotions. We are their external regulators. They don’t know how to do it and need us to help them calm down. We can help them notice what’s happening. That it is okay and that we are going to be there to help them feel better. There’s nothing wrong with them. It’s normal.

It’s okay to feel our feelings

We must teach our children a vocabulary of emotions. To teach them, we can use reflection. We reflect what we think they are feeling at any given moment. “I notice you are getting stressed out right now”

If they learn to identify what emotion they feel then it will become easier for them to express how they feel. We should encourage them and praise when they are able to. It’s a good idea to model to them and express how we as parents feel sometimes. It’s okay to feel our feelings and express them.

We must teach them that we cannot choose the emotions we feel, but we can choose what we do with them.

We can teach them to be mindful and notice what emotion they feel, how they feel it in their bodies. Then to express how they feel to you.  Once the child has said that he feels upset, we can teach them to calm down and let the emotion pass in order to act. We can teach them to breath deeply and notice how their bodies relax. It’s like a wave. The emotion comes and the emotion goes. It doesn’t stay with us. We just need to sit with the emotion. We can drink a cup of tea with the emotion. Then everything will be okay. They can also talk to their brains. “Everything will be fine” “It will pass” “I can do it”

They can ask for what they need. Do they need space? Do they need a hug? Do they need to tell us what happened? Do they need to breath deeply? Do they need to take a walk? Do they need us to tell them that everything will be fine while holding their hands?

Their brain is learning that there are other ways to deal with these Big emotions other than being aggressive. Then they can choose what they want to do. And there you go! That Big emotion is not that big anymore. It’s gone. They won that battle over anger. Hi Five!

Let’s prepare for the next battle.

Being a parent does not come with a manual but you can have a guide to identify typical situations that we have to develop in life. The relationship that we must establish with our children should be intimate and sometimes the difference in age can be a gap that we do not know how to break. An infallible method to connect with children can be play.

To enjoy our relationship with our children can be more satisfying if it is established in an environment in which they are comfortable and can be fun as play. Play can strengthen our relationship and at the same time be an opportunity to teach something new to our children and even learn from them.

To generate this space, you have to reserve time to enjoy this experience with your children. If play activities are included, the time can be doubled for both parents and children. The environment can be ideal if technological devices or another distraction that can be a avoided.

Happy children happen when there’s parents playing with them!

Young children want to spend almost all their time playing and what better experience than to do it with their parents. Play allows both children and parents to feel free and share a moment, helps them develop in an environment free of prejudice and where ties can be strengthened.

A playful environment generates trust in children and facilitates communication with their parents. Play allows both children and parents to be in an environment in which communication is horizontal because the rules of the game apply to everyone so that you can eliminate the barrier that often forms around the image of authority that parents project most of the time.

Play can be modified according to the age of the child and even extend to adolescence as long as the appropriate game is chosen. This activity cannot be lacking in the relationship between parents and children as well as giving space for both to build an amical relationship that can endure over the years.

Play to build relationships

Play has benefits for both parents and children, you can have both a leisure and learning experience for both children and parents. Parents may even learn more of these experiences from their children, they may learn to recognize typical attitudes that may be reflected in their daily lives, as well as the way of thinking or the logic they use to be able to function within a game.

Within a playful environment, tolerance and creativity can be developed giving free rein to the imagination not only of the children but also of the parent. In sharing these activities parents can find a space where they can feel free and can discover themselves generating close ties with their children.

How can I generate a space to play?

In order to generate a playful environment in which both children and parents can feel comfortable, we should give opportunity for everyone to be included in play. We should choose an activity in which everyone can participate without feeling simple spectators.

It must be understood that in a playful environment everyone should be treated equally so that trust is generated and both children and parents can function naturally. The rules must be enforced and the children above all should not perceive that any type of injustice is being made.

This joyful experience can create closer ties with your children. Enjoy!

Infidelity remarkably affects couple relationships, being one of the first causes of divorce. It also produces strong emotional reactions, causing not only anxiety, but also depression. However, not all couples in which an infidelity occurs end up separating, some maintain and even improve their relationship, although it is possible that before this happens they need to go to couple’s therapy.

What is infidelity?

Infidelity can be defined as a romantic, sexual or emotional relationship that breaks the commitment of exclusivity in relationships.  However, not many couples define what is for them to be unfaithful, but are given by simple assumptions, that is to say, social customs, family assumptions, traditions, among others.

This is why it is possible that something is considered an infidelity on the part of the betrayed but, not for those who have been unfaithful. An example is the woman who may consider her partner viewing pornography as being unfaithful, behavior that is possible for the man to observe with total normality; This is the main reason why all couples should establish which behaviors may be considered infidelity.

Some reasons your partner is unfaithful

These are some of the reasons that infidelity occurs in couples’ relationships:

When we talk about yoga, we refer to the ancient practice that combines physical activity and the purification of emotions, therefore, couple’s yoga is an excellent way to improve the health status of both, as well as to find a good point of interaction with your partner and also helps them understand each other and to trust and act as one.

Reasons to do yoga as a couple

The postures of yoga as a couple are very similar to those of individual yoga. The reasons for carrying out this practice as a couple are many, to begin with an internal and personal discovery, keeping introspection, with the sole purpose of connecting deeply with your partner so that the positive energies of both connect and form a single unit.

The energy that this practice transmits to the couples is reflected in their day to day and in many cases, it results in the improvement of the relation in any aspect; The basic postures of yoga bring great benefits, are almost as effective as a therapy for couples because it helps them to strengthen ties and acquire not only serenity, but also empathy for one another.

Benefits of doing yoga as a couple

The practice of yoga as a couple is almost as beneficial as couple psychotherapy, but in this case the process is carried out through a beautiful and wonderful experience.

These are some benefits of the practice of yoga as a couple: