Stress and Tension Can Influence Any Couple
The relationship problems you face do not mean that your partnership is damaged or doomed. Most couples feel disconnected at one point or another, even after spending years or decades together.
On a first date, couples generally spend more time flirting and conquering than anticipating a future of hectic careers and housework. But, the truth is, eventually, all couples will eventually struggle with the boring and stressful realities of routine. It can be difficult to nurture a strong connection when you feel overwhelmed by the demands of kids, jobs, and more.
The stresses of life can also make it more difficult to communicate with your partner in a healthy way. When you don’t feel connected, you also don’t feel like you can trust each other. That means you are less likely to openly express your honest feelings. And sometimes, you can be so overwhelmed that you don’t know how you really feel.
So, instead of saying, “I need to feel supported and valued,” you may come out as a reproach that you don’t mind me leaving your dirty laundry. Instead of saying that you feel lonely and that you miss their affection, you can suffocate your partner and make them feel trapped. Or, instead of saying you need space, you could shut down and isolate yourself, leaving your partner confused and rejected.
My Couples Counseling in Spanish Techniques
In recent years, common issues that couples face have been thoroughly researched and explored, leading to highly effective relationship counseling techniques. I am a trained therapist with 10 years of experience in emotionally focused therapy, an empirically validated approach that helps couples explore cycles of conflict to rediscover their true connection. With help, you can feel heard, recognized, and valued, just the way you are.
EFT, Emotion Focused Therapy, can help you and your partner become aware of the negative patterns that have taken hold in your relationship. Understanding where these patterns come from is the first step in deciphering them.
You and your partner are likely to get caught up in certain patterns because you don’t know how to effectively express unmet attachment needs. Many people develop certain attachment problems as children; For example, if you’ve often felt abandoned, now you might want consistent and reliable signs of affection.
In safe, non-judgmental sessions, I will help you explore what your emotional attachment needs are. If appropriate, you could also turn to EMDR therapy, a highly effective form of trauma treatment that provides healing from the inside out. It works at the root of the problem. EMDR can be an effective part of couples counseling because it helps to integrate the past with the present. Doing this helps both of you stop reacting to old hurts and begin to respond in a genuine and vulnerable way. EFT will allow both of you to empathically share and listen to each other’s stories.
My Approach to Couples Counseling
In general, my approach to couples counseling aims to help you and your partner relate with greater self-awareness and shared compassion. Our work can help reduce stress, eliminate arguments, and focus on being more present, open, and vulnerable to each other. Together, you can experience and share deep, even difficult, emotions without fear that those emotions will spiral into chaos.
As a mother, professional, and wife, I know what it’s like to face and overcome the challenges we all experience in relationships. As an EFT expert, I will be here to comfort you and guide you through the healing process. With a little time, you will develop the deep relational tools you need to generate mutual feelings of security and support. Your relationship can become a place of rest, healing, and peace.
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